I really hadn’t planned on coming out. At least I hadn’t planned on doing it right away, maybe in 6 months or so, but there I was in the middle of a training session filled with colleagues, and I was glaring threateningly at one of the few people I’d mistakenly shared my secret with. “Oh my God! She did NOT just out me in front of everyone!” screamed through my brain. I had stupidly trusted her with the information. I thought knowing might help her to realize there was at least one other person out there – a person who “got it” – a kindred spirit who also struggled as she did – something that might help her push through one more day. And there she was loudly asking me in front of God and everyone else, “Soooo… how many laps did you do?”
“Laps?” I raised my brow, “you mean laps?” as if I’d suddenly forgotten English.
“Yeah, how many laps did YOU do?”
Oh no, she was NOT calling me out in front of a roomful of folks. I was indignant. They weren’t supposed to know! If I’d wanted them to know, I would have made a t-shirt. I did a quick mental check to confirm I hadn’t been to CafePress recently, which meant it wasn’t on my agenda to share that information ever.
Since she put it out there for the world, or at least these 10 people, I’ll go ahead and tell you, too:
I go to the gym.
I’d been going to the gym daily (or at least each workday) for about 6 weeks, and it wasn’t something I planned on advertising to anyone other than a select few. I wanted to do my thing without discussion – without status reports, “Hey, how is the gym going? Seeing any results? How do you feel? Feel different? Feel invigorated every time you leave? Don’t you love it? I’m so proud of you!” but since she brought it up in front of everyone, I also wasn’t about to lose in front of my peers.
“Laps?” I repeated, and then I puffed up. “I don’t DO laps, but if you want to talk about how much I lifted today or maybe how much I pressed, I’d be happy to do that.” A quiet little “ooo” circulated through the room. Smackdown gym style. IN YOUR FACE! That seemed to satisfy her. She turned around with a smile.
I was relieved that worked. Had she taken me up on the challenge, I would have had to admit to a very unimpressive and quite wobbly 20 lb. barbell lift over my head while my trainer kept cheering, “you can do it! You got this!” My friends (you know who you are) have long admired my T-Rex like arm strength, and have long speculated on what my little arm appendages might be for – surely, not moving things bigger than cotton balls (hey, a daily face regimen is important and cotton balls aren’t as light as the little cotton ball manufacturers would lead you to believe). The other things I pull and push may have been a little heavier, but were also equally unimpressive in the scheme of things. Hey, I know an Olympic-style lifter/trainer. She could do my routine with her pinky finger. (It’s a super impressive pinky finger! Fear her pinky!). In fact, when it comes to the actual weights I find it’s ok, even preferred, to have one’s glasses off. That way you’re not fighting to keep them up and you also don’t have to see how pitiful you really are – your trainer will make a note. Thankfully, sans glasses, you also can’t see those notes. Gyming without glasses makes you immediately stronger!
Of course, her calling me out led to that day’s class trainer making a gigantic deal about it. “What time do you go?” 5:30 am. “How do you find the motivation?” Ummm… the alarm won’t stop making this awful noise unless I get up. (Although, the truth may involve Starfleet Academy and running through the Kobayashi Maru scenario or maybe it doesn’t. I’m not saying. Look, I don’t judge your motivators. There’s also an opportunity to go to New Zealand. Oh ok, now you’re on board? Really? Starfleet is cool, too. Pffft.) All of these questions (and there were many) in front of a room full of people who were suddenly very interested in a thing I didn’t want them to know about. Thanks. Thanks for that.
The next gym day with the trainer, “I need you to beat someone up. That’s a thing, right?” Apparently that’s not a thing. Hey, it was worth a shot.
Now that you all know, I’ll share with you some of the important things I’ve learned from my trainer. By the way, her name is Jenn and Jenn is kind of a rock star with an infinite amount of patience especially for my unending shenanigans. She’s also a great source of Yoda-esque wisdom though she tends to run her words in the right order.
“Beth, I want you to toss that ball up in the air like you’re throwing it behind you. Really toss it up there.” For the record, this is a giant 10 lb. ball. Hey, I mentioned the T-Rex thing; It’s heavy to me.
“What do I do if it’s coming down at me?”
“Oh, most people move, but if you want to take it in the face just stand there.”
Laying on a bench, “Beth, stop lifting the weights over your face.” (pause) “Not over the face, Beth.”
(I like to call this “foreshadowing” for my future accident)
“Beth, you’re not that weak.”
“Are you sure?”
“Jenn, I forgot my water bottle.”
“Well, I guess you’ll be drinking your spit today!”
These are all things I just wouldn’t get anywhere else. (Ok, maybe from a few/all of my friends.)
Recently I asked:
“Jenn, have you ever fired a client?” (Hey, I accept I’m challenging)
“If you think you’re about to fire me, would you give me a hint? Like maybe say the word “Sasquatch” in the middle of a sentence?”
“HAH! Ok, but I’m not going to fire you as long as you keep trying.” (whew!)
So, it looks like I’ll be at the gym a bit longer.
Just don’t ask me about it.